Friday, January 8, 2010

Challenging all assumptions


Fire fire everywhere
except where there is snow of course.

Fire raging in the mountains around us, strong winds combining to create the most astonishing light I have seen in a long time.
Sitting in the garden the light reflects off my tanned arms.
I stare at in wonder.
A neighbour comes approaches me and asks if I am concerned, I said no not anymore.
But a short while before I had experienced pure panic.
A few hours earlier Tao (always Tao) had gone off hiking with Siyabongi over the hills
and when I looked some time after that, I noticed the fire had traversed a huge distance in a very short span of time and that they were in that vicinity where it was headed.
Got in the car, raced to the spot, went along a path that only a camel would normally be able to traverse, all the time hooting and screaming and in quite a state of panic.

The wind picked up and in that second I felt completely powerless. All I could do was head there myself but then what about the kids and animals at home if the fire came any closer.
So I did something I have become rather adept at, I surrendered.
I sqauatted down and had a pee on the white gravel, (what is it with bladders and fear) watched the pattern form, wondered how that tiny selection of life got liquid at that moment in time.
And with that little bit of microscopic marveling, the panic subsided.
A crow flew low overhead and I just packed up laughing.

Fuck it life - I accept it as it is.
No more resistance.
At that moment Tao and Bongi came over the hill and we headed home where we made plans of getting all the animals out of here.
But the threat lost its intensity and the amazing firefighters put out the blaze that some small penised arsonist started.

Driving to the town the day after a truck of firefighters were on the side of the road and upon sight of them this outpouring emotion expressed itself with tears rolling down the face at the same time as the deepest belly laugh erupted. I got out and shook all their hands and felt pure love for these beings that had just spent three days in a physics laboratory with changing patterns.

Coming home I found yet another neighbour grilling Cian about what he wanted to do with his life. Cian was saying live it.
And he was saying yeah but you got to go to universtity and you have to ...........
As I departed to make tea I heard Cian saying how he was 14 - he had no idea how he wanted to earn a living, probably in as many ways as possible.
And I went in and made him a cup of tea and put a teaspoon of salt in it.
He spat it out and asked if I had done it deliberately.
I said I had done it with more awareness then he was whipping Cian.
He went on to tell me he will never get anywhere if he...
At which point I told him that my entire life I had being pointed out the business leaders, the doctors, the politicians , the people of high education, worthy of respect.
And yet at this jucture in time I would spit at them before I shook their hands.

I told Cian about my emotion upon meeting these men and how it was a pure response from the body with no dialogue from mind.
I said if you can follow your true calling as a human being, being instead of having instead of doing, then you will know peace which is not synonymous with sucess..
And no you will not be invited to estates in the English countryside or to the Hamptons or such.
But those things are losing their allure and value by the second.

And then evening came and dinner was served and Sage offered to carve the chicken.
Again the neighbour perked up with critisicm "who taught you to do that", that is not how you do it, here let me show you" and he then proceeded to do it in the socially acceptable way, where there was more meat left on the carcass then necessary. So the boys grabbed it and did it their way whilst he shook his head.

And for me it was a difficult moment, I have been raised with the whole thing of manners maketh man and that whole paradigm and here I was on the other side of the proper way of doing things. I mean I can accept living outside the grid but could I accept such primitive life skills my offspring possesed when doing this task.
And once again this laugh just arose and I looked at the kids and said I wonder when our cavemen forefathers came up with this rule.

Life gave me an amazing Christmas present this year.
For a non believer it was extra speical.
Whenever suffering arises it is noticed immediately and straight away it will become apparent that there is an assumption acting out and then looking at that assumption I have no choice but to challenge it.

And this gets to be a lot of fun because at the end of the day every single thing needs to be challenged.
And with this, the prison walls come tumbling down, because everything and I mean everything I have been taught or assumed has no veracity and what is left is the clear realisation that there is no me doing or surviving. What I am is the empty space in which the appearance of Su arises and disappears. And this space is totally unaffected by the arisings.

Anyone for chicken?

7 comments:

john said...

Nice one Su!

nina said...

You have a plan behind the graduating crimsons.
Its all so very Su.
Namaste

Anonymous said...

Dearest Su
i arrived on your site with tears in my eyes, looking for a respite...

Thank you for the belly laugh! I truly feel blessed, being able to come here.

with much love and respect

:)Ravi

PS: wonderful change in decor...

psychegram said...

Pshaw, who cares for manners anyways? They are so culturally contrived. Here in Canada it's the height of rudeness to slurp your soup and in Japan it's rude if you don't (upon entering this cultural context the feeling of liberation was palpable.)

All that matters is: hygiene, respect and consideration. Is the food handled in as sanitary a way as possible (ie, you don't make a mess)? Is thought given to the organism which gave its life to feed you? Is an effort made to ensure everyone at the table receives their fair share? If the answer to these questions is yes nothing else matters and as a corollary, insistence on certain forms to exclusion of these underlying rationales is extremely rude.

Your neighbor's behaviour in this regard was nothing short of boorish. We all have our little foibles, though....

I do adore the red.

Who is Tao? Is she the foxy brunette next to the Siberian lady?

(word verification 'gartiwaf', which just sounds rude.)

Destiny said...

" And I went in and made him a cup of tea and put a teaspoon of salt in it.
He spat it out and asked if I had done it deliberately.
I said I had done it with more awareness then he was whipping Cian. "

lol I loved that - your children are so lucky to have you :)

su said...

Hi John,
Walked over in your landscape the other night - what a dream.

Nina - me a plan. Did I spell it correctly? Tell me more. "-"

Ravi - Had wondered once or twice about you. Wondered if you were in the cold. Seems like I am the only one in the heat at the moment

Psychegram - Great to have you visit.
The food is hygienic normally - it depends if the guineas are joining us at the table. Actually they are scrupulously clean. No let us say the hygiene standards are passable and as none of the kids has ever had antibiotics it must count for something.

Everyone gets equal amounts, that is why it is so vital to carve the chicken in van der westhuyzen style. Maximum meat, maximum gratitude.

A few months ago someone gave me a bar of Lindt chocolate. Pistatchio bar. I had a few squares and then started the water fast and left it in the fridge. You know it is still there, three months later, in full view. Everyone knows it is mine and no-one would dream of taking any let alone asking for some because how could I refuse.

Tao is the foxy brunette next to the Siberian lady. Except I think he would prefer to read hunky brunette. Hee hee.

Destiny - well I don't know if Lucky is the word. What is that Chinese curse "may you live in interesting times" it could likewise be "may you have an interesting mother".

word: luentswa - sounds like a body scanner that doubles up by giving flu vaccines.

nina said...

I thought the red was a graphic plan, intentional, not until I saw your post about the crimson sky did I realize how all pervasive is the disaster occurring simultaneously. Another test! One you could do without, however you have exactly the proper mental equipment to deal with it. I await word.

The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Buddha